April 21, 2010
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Deja Vu?
If you haven't seen it, here is a comment on my last post:
"One of the many reasons that "one" is reluctant to let go of those former relationship thoughts is basically a type of self defense mechanism. Everything about you is picking up on things that are almost an exact reminder of the good times (if there are even two of them) that were shared in your former relationship.And what's really strange is the trigger mechanisms; such as ones sense of taste, hearing, and smell, and the like- but especially smell. Think of it this way...
The former most likely brought you to certain locations when dating (and possibly when married); such as restraunts. Some of those same restraunts might have foods which might be considered rare. By having that same "smell signature" ran by you again opens up some of the older images and files in ones mind that can almost literally bring you back to that former point in time.
Which is also why (in most cases) that clothes can literally hold scents such as cologne and perfume even after being washed or even dry cleaned several times- even after time periods well in excess of one year. Or to compare people with ones household pets... Dogs do not recognize each other by sight, they can simply smell each other from very great distances.
But not only is is your sences that are opening the older files in ones mind- it's also the self defense mechanism. The same exact mechanism that is telling you that you did get burned once- and to try not to let it happen again."
Let me copy a quote also from The Matrix:
[Neo sees a black cat walk by them, and then a similar black cat walk by them just like the first one]
Neo: Whoa. Déjà vu.
[Everyone freezes right in their tracks]
Trinity: What did you just say?
Neo: Nothing. Just had a little déjà vu.
Trinity: What did you see?
Cypher: What happened?
Neo: A black cat went past us, and then another that looked just like it.
Trinity: How much like it? Was it the same cat?
Neo: It might have been. I'm not sure.
Morpheus: Switch! Apoc!
Neo: What is it?
Trinity: A déjà vu is usually a glitch in the Matrix. It happens when they change something.BOOM Deja Vu????
Before I got married I was horribly nervous about it until my wedding day when I was miserable. THEN I got married. Duh that was dumb.
I have been wondering lately about marriage. I am always surrounding by people that are married but I wonder if I can do it again. I want to be married but I think where would I live, do I have to share my house, would I revert to the person that takes care of all the meals, etc?? Mundane items but I have been thinking about them. Mind you I am in a happy relationship with a man that I love but I am so freaked out by my past marriage that I guess that the closer I get to thinking about what it would be like to be married again I barf up some kind of baggage. (Understand, my honey and I are NOT talking about or thinking about marriage or any type of real change in our relationship.)
So I was weighed down this weekend by more shame that I feel from my marriage. My honey maintains the position that there had to be some good qualities about him otherwise I would not have married him in the first place. I wanted to spend my free time traveling and seeing the world and we traveled well together. I was traveling with my honey this weekend and we are planning other trips together and we also travel well together. I love a few days away with him. Was this my trigger?
I guess I should learn to accept it as just a cat and let it keep walking by.
Comments (2)
Insight is a wonderful thing for me; but at times it can be a curse. As far as I can ascertain I have only met some two people in my entire life whom have a greater ability at both analysys and insight more than myself. Yet one of my greatest achiles heales is that- although I can almost see thorough others as if they were a piece of glass (please nothing degrading meant about that one) I also cannot practicly use those skills to make myself a better person.
It's also rather interesting that the poster of this original article posted a quote from one of the Matrix series of movies. I happen to personally know both of the movies directors and more than a few from the behind the scenes crew. If one happens to have the extended scenes blue rays then chances are you can spot me as helping out on one of the sets- although I wasn't a paid employee. Or a more up to date me- simply watch closely in the background on the movie currently showing on the big screen- She's Out of My League- the outdoor restraunt scene filmed in Market Square, Pittsburgh.
But for all practical purposes lets state that basically I'm a complete stranger to the original poster of this article- even if "they"named" both a type of jeans and a perfume after her initials...
Now back to the original poster...
It's actually better that you are verbalizing your exact feelings; instead of doing the opposite. I personally have found that I'm not quite able to get over on the past; with my former wife- and that it considerably gets in the way of existing relationships.
And a slight suggestion... Any other movies which you can quote with that much accuracy?
I personally prefer The Cotton Club with Diane Lane (wasn't she originally from the Atlanta area??) and Richard Gere; they make an incredible team.
Oops have to be going now- trying to make it back to a hardline point before they change something.
Posting topic suggestion for possible answer by the roofing manager/owner...
Ever see people driving with their pets on their lap? Any pet in any front seat could be seriously injured or killed even in a relatively minor collision. Yet there are also a variety of methods to help to ensure the safety of ones pet as well; yet most people simply ignore them.
Last year over ten thousand household pets were killed while they were passengers in vehicles.
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